By AUSTIN HALL
One never gets a second chance at a first impression, it’s cliché but true. Men are fairly simple creatures, but are not oblivious to the little things. How a girl acts or dresses reveals much more about her than she thinks.
What to wear should depend upon the type of date. Wear something like a simple dress that looks nice, but is not too flashy. Clothes with a lot of different colors and shapes can distract a guy from conversation. His attention could stick on the complications of the dress instead of the conversation currently in progress. Aim to be the girl that a guy would bring home to mom, not a girl “The Situation” would take back to his apartment.
There is such a thing as too much skin, and if that line is crossed then guys will think that their date is promiscuous and loose interest. From there on out a girl can become less of girlfriend material and more of a story to tell the guys later on in the evening.
Avoid overdoing anything; unless looking like a single mom that just stepped off the Rock of Love bus is one’s style, stray from putting on too much make up. If too much is used, makeup becomes an obstacle to hide behind instead of a tool to enhance beauty.
Having confidence goes a long way. Even faking confidence is better than being insecure. Guys do not want to listen to their date constantly complain about how they think their dog is ignoring them, when it really does not matter.
There needs to be a balance, from the way each party presents itself to conversation involvement. Do not leave the conversation entirely on the man’s shoulders.
Men are territorial by nature, so it does not take much to make a guy get defensive. Boys are not always the best at keeping their attention off other females, but both parties keeping their attention on each other allows for chemistry to flow uninterrupted.
Make sure to be engaged and avoid all conversation enders. If the guy asks a question and the response he gets is “I don’t know,” awkward silence is inevitable. Ask him the question and think of an answer while he says what he thinks. That question was likely asked for a reason. Talk about each others’ views without making it an argument.
This can also erect the opposite problem. The sound of one’s own voice can be intoxicating but do not overwhelm him with more information than he needs. Conversations are a two way street, so be sure not to control the conversation, but to invite a response so the conversation flows back and forth between each person.
Until the two change their relationship status to “in a relationship” on Facebook, and the honeymoon phase is over, it is the man’s responsibility to pay for dinner. There will be the occasional date that will ask for two checks, so always bring an emergency stash just in case the guy is too cheap for manners.
Too much good of a good thing can be a bad thing, so do not go overboard. It is always better to play it safe and highlight one’s strengths than to try and mask any flaws that guys normally would not notice.